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There are not so many times I remember when someone apologized to me to be honest. People don’t often say sorry ;)  
But the time that sticks in my mind the most is when my friend, Liu Xiang, who I also shared a flat with near campus, apologized to be quite profusely. It was several years ago now and I had been quite upset about some personal problems in my family. He was also upset about some issues with his girlfriend. In fact, we had a big argument one night after dinner because I felt that he had ignored all of my problems and constantly spent all our time together going on and on about his problems and his girlfriend and his feelings. I felt he was selfish. I really needed some support from him, for a change, rather than me always listening to his issues. Anyway, at this dinner I got upset, and then he got quite angry and defensive with me and he walked out of the restaurant in a rage, leaving me sitting there alone.
The next day he found me in the library and came to me, gave me a small book as a gift  and said he was really sorry. He said he had been reflecting on why I was upset and had realized that he did spend way too much time talking about himself, and no time listening to my problems at a time when I really needed support. He seemed embarrassed and I got the impression he really did care for me. I thanked him and later that day we went for beers together and had a really good laugh. I think it’s important to apologise, it can clean the air between friends and promote greater understanding and empathy. 


I would say that most people do not apologise much. However, they may show that they are sorry in a different way, like they might make extra efforts to be nice to you, to help you with things, to buy you a cake or something on their way home. This kind of gesture which shows care and kindness, instead of the actual words “sorry”. I think this is the way that most people that I know might express a sort of apology to each other. Actions speak louder than words, as they say. 

I think some people find it embarrassing to apologise. In a way it’s like a loss of face. I think it also takes quite a bit of courage to apologise. Also, I think it is partially related to education – if we learn from our parents that a strong and honorable person apologises then we are likely to not find it so hard, so hard to I apologise I mean. So, I think it depends. But it is sometimes embarrassing to say sorry to people, and I think most of us feel like that, most of us feel like it’s a little bit awkward, a little bit, shameful perhaps, a little bit embarrassing, and we don’t know how to start the apology, and we want to make sure that nobody else is around apart from the person that we are apologizing to.

Some people apologise when they don’t really mean it because they either want to keep the peace or they want to win favour or stay in favour with another person. For example, some people will apologise to their boss even if they are not at fault, to show they are a loyal employee, or to show respect, as a form of politeness. They may also do the same because they want something and they are trying to get in the boss’s good books, get on his or her side and make a good impression. Another reason is for diplomacy with a partner or a friend who is upset and highly sensitive. You may not want to apologise or feel you should, but you realise your friend is genuinely upset and very sensitive and that you can make them feel a lot better if you say sorry. So, you apologise to them. These are all reasons why one might give a feigned or perhaps not a sincere apology. But I think they are good reasons. This is part of living in society, we must learn to be diplomatic, intelligent and also kind with other people in varying situations.